4th Jan 2016

I had loads of things to write today. One teeny tiny detail I forgot and that it………(drum roll please…….)……….to jot them down as the day went on. I bloody forgot to write them down. 

The day started with Deb waking up at sparrow fart o’clock. So she went and watched The Hobbit (part 3. The something of smog). I dozed and then she came in with a cuppa tea and then we planned the jobs we would get done today before she went back to work.

In a bid to get my out of bed my job was to strip the bed and put clean duvet set on. This is good therapy for my right arm and my mood control (well that’s what I keep telling myself). I get in such a state with it. It was around 09:00 that I started and it was around 10:00 that I finished. That’s a workout and a half to start the day. That is including getting Deb to put on the sheet because the mattress is too heavy for me to pick up at this moment in time. 

I went into the kitchen area and done some leg work. It’s the right height so I can’t cheat. Some squats, both legs and also just the right leg, and some stretches.

After Deb had finished the paperwork we planned our evening meals for the week and then went food shopping. Deb only allows me to go shopping with her as it is exercise for me. Before this happened I never used to go. To be fair I’m only allowed to go now because I use the trolley as a walking aid and therefore am unable to add extra items to the shopping list.

That’s kind of it today. I don’t really feel in a talkative mood. 

Catch you tomorrow 💋

3rd Jan 2016

I woke today feeling sad. All by myself as Debs had the Smile High Club gig yesterday and then stayed at a friends. I wasn’t sad that she went because I brought her the ticket, and she needed to escape life for a bit. You see for the past 7months her life has been work or looking after me, she hasn’t had any Debs time and she needed that. I woke up sad because I missed out. A few friends were going so it would have been good to catch up but at the same time it wasn’t the best location/surrounding for me. Also then Debs wouldn’t have been able to go crazy as she would’ve have been too concerned over if I was ok. And the whole point of getting her the ticket was so she could go crazy.

I don’t thank that my mood as helped by the dark, wet, weather outside.  Today is a why won’t it work day.  My shoulder and my brain weren’t co-operating either. So thought I would concentrate on my leg otherwise all valves would burst and even Hannibal wouldn’t have been brave enough to come near me. Needless to say my leg didn’t want to co-operate either. This is turning out to be a brilliant Sunday!! 

So I decided to get up and have some breakfast and try and regather myself. My brain it seems isn’t interested in co-operating at all today.  Late nights I don’t think help. So rather than throw shit fit as I call it (otherwise known as a tantrum on a major level) I got a cup of tea and sat down and watched Elemetary (a great series on sky one). It’s a modern day Sherlock Holmes it’s brilliant. Decided that best to distract myself. 

It did help I decided that I needed to out smart myself. So while watching the tv I started going some small finger movement in my hand to practice muscle control. Win! Also some shoulder movements. Win! But I have to be careful if I try to complicate the moves too much then a shit fit wouldn’t be far behind. So just a few and often is the recipe today. As I walk it seems that my hip and knee have mad a pact that the only way I am going to walk anywhere today is looking a pirate dragging their leg.  So careful consideration was needed. My physio had told me before Christmas that needed to start being more challenging to myself. Ok……hmmmmmm. Boom!! I have an idea. So holding onto the kitchen side I lift up my good leg and balance on just my right leg. It isn’t easy but nothing is. Now I bend that leg and then straighten and I achieve in getting brain, hip and knee all to play ball. Let’s add some squats in for good measure. Communication restored.

I know that my exercise hasn’t been very much today but sometimes it’s not the physical side that needs attention. Sometimes it’s the mental side, and today was a mental side. I have spent a great deal of today trying to understand the connection patten of my brain and finding ways to out smart myself to get some excercise done. My my brain was my nemesis today. It might be again tomorrow. Who knows. 

I’m of now to watch some more Elementary and then to catch up with Debs when she gets back, and hear all about Smile High. 💋

HaPpY NeW YeAr

Happy new year to everyone.

So how were the heads yesterday?? How many people swore that they were not going to drink again?? 

I know I know I’m a day late but because I decided to wave goodbye 2015 and welcome 2016 I spent most of yesterday sleeping because I forget that my body and my brain at the moment cannot survive on little sleep. So I slept yesterday which I know isn’t good for me but of the year that has been wanted to make sure I waved goodbye to it.
So needless to say it was a massive fail with regards to my physio and exercises yesterday. I am back on track today and feeling really good about moving forward and connecting the nervous between my brain and my arm and leg. My physio told me just before Christmas that if I wanted to stay in bed the next for 10 minutes in the morning then to do that I would have to do some arm exercises. It is hard.

 Trying to keep hold and control of my arm directly above me is quite a challenge. 

Trying to control my arm and bring it down to touch my nose with out giving myself a blackeye is hard. 

Bring my hand down to touch my cheek or my forehead without causing myself and injury is hard. 

Moving my hand about in the air in their figure of eight motion and not giving into the loss of muscle strength that I have so that my arm feels really heavy and the easiest option is to just give up that’s really hard. 

Laying flat on my back knees bent trying to lift my pelvis of the bed while keeping control of my knee and my hip and my right that’s hard.

Lifting my pelvis and my good leg off the bed whilr trying to use my bad leg to keep my pelvis of the bed that’s hard.

That’s only 30 minutes of exercise and that feels like 2 hours.

Also then sit and watch a TV programme while peddling on a mini excerise bike. 

Then a few squats. I could never do squats properly until now. Not that they are  perfect right now the still better than what I used to be able to do.

Called up my father-in-law today and he took me food shopping as Debbie was at her Christmas present which was a ticket to the fat boy slim is smile high club gig at Tobacco doc in London. But she conveniently decided to shout out as she left “don’t forget the cats got no food left”. Cheeky monkey! But that’s what I think is great about her she will leave me stuff to do. It’s like she sets me her own little challenges. And I do get really frustrated when I don’t achieve them. I’m sure that’s why she does it.

Even now it is really hard to understand how you can go from being fully able to do anything one-day and in an instance that has changed. For me it is a temporary thing it will all come back but it’s going to take a very long time. But it still doesn’t get any easier to understand. Like I said before I’m not depressed any more about what has happened to me because I can’t change that. For me now it is dealing with the anxiety I am sitting here practising to pick up a boat building block and my fingers won’t react how I want them to. This is where I turn into a five-year-old and keep saying why! Why can’t I pick that up! Why can’t that finger bend how I wanted to! And the answer is practice, the only way things are going to get better is if I practice. 

I must admit when I woke up in the morning and stretch on my right hand I do give the live long and prosper sign and I’m not even a fan of Star Trek. I promise one morning I will remember and I will take a photo and put it up on here. It is quite entertaining to have a little chuckle to myself.

It’s really late really should get to bed so good night.

End of the year

I was very slack and didn’t do many diary entries in the first few months of coming out of hospital. It was a very hard time for me we were living in every parents front room and don’t get me wrong I am so grateful for what they have done for us but at the time it wasn’t our own home. But now we do have our own home and now we can build a new memories. 

I had many arguments with Debbie as of what over why she decided to stay  with me when she could have just left and had a normal life and that had to put up with doing so much for me. I don’t think either of us actually really believed at how hard it was going to be. It wasn’t just the fact I’ve had the Brain injury but also that I am having to learn to use my right hand side of my body again.

Debbie’s dad David has been amazing he’s been my personal taxi service to my physio appointment my OT appointments and anywhere else that I needed to go in between. That’s really hard to deal with when you’re such an independent person but then you want to go anywhere or do anything you have to rely on someone.

I’ve had a few falls the first one was literally the next day after leaving hospital lost my balance and fell into washing pile. And Debbie’s parents having to help me up because I couldn’t do it by myself. Another one that is thanks to my adorable cute black-and-white furball Asbo the cat. I was sitting on the edge of the bed and he jumped up sat behind me and decided to throw up a hairball. My brain engaged the way it would’ve done in the past for me to get out the way so I didn’t get covered in cat sick so no sooner had I thought with myself to stand up and move I fell to the floor and quite spectacular fashion, smashed my head against the Chester draws and then sat on the floor crying uncontrollably. Debbie said it was really weird to watch she can get herself to me quick enough so she could do was watch and said it was horrible. 

But I think the biggest thing in all of this is my mood swings. I’m having to learn my brain and how to react to things all over again. It’s like being a toddler and learning how to react in different situations. Sometimes something is hilarious and I will laugh so much that I have tears but then other times I will cry doesn’t necessarily have to be a reason behind it I will just cry. The biggest one, the worst one is anger. As you grow up when things start to annoy you or someone pisses you off you learn how to control that in a manner that’s not offensive. At this moment in time I don’t get those little warning signs. It’s a case of I can be absolutely fine one minute and then something completely trivial Will just get cold in my head and that’s it I’m super angry. Remind Debbie deserves a medal because nine times out of 10 she is the one in the firing line. And that is not fair so my OT has referred me back to the psychologist to that we can get this sorted and I can learn how to control it all again. 

I now belong to a group called headway and these people are amazing. I am part of a group called habit and we meet every fortnight and it’s really nice to be around people that are going through similar to you I know what you’re going through and you don’t feel so isolated. Headway is an amazing organisation and I look forward to being able to pay the favour when I am better.

Part of the reason for me writing this blog was so that I remembered to write down how my day goes because at some point I’m going to be looking back all this and seeing all the minor and major achievements I have had. All the little dramas but I will and I am sure there will be plenty of them. And also so I can show people that there is no such word as can’t. If you got the drive and determination you can do anything. 

So today I draw a line under 2015 and I look forward to success strength and fun in 2016. 

Happy New Year to you all 😜

Back to the real world

  

 
Well it’s the end of another chapter. Danesbury’s No1 patient is leaving. I would like to say a massive thank you to all amazing staff. They are a great bunch of people who do such a fabulous job.

Thank you Abi, Ana, Paul, Kerry, Carla, Adrian, Gary, Abs, Suzie, David, Sharon, Tracy, Geraldine, Janaya, Sandra and everyone I have missed out. THANK YOU SO VERY MUCH xxxx

I am going to miss this place. The staff here are amazing and do such a fantastic job. I will never be able to thank them for the help and support they have given me and my family.

  
The first stop after leaving hospital was a to stop at the pub for a celebratory drink. It’s been a hard journey and it’s not over yet but I’m out of hospital for good now.  

We has also be successful in getting one of the flats when they are completed so that is fantastic and so for the time being we are going to live with Debs parents for the time being. 

Wednesday 19th August

After my home visit on Monday and then walking round the supermarket to get the food for cooking yesterday my leg was aching and I didn’t sleep that well. I got to physio with Dave and asked if he could massage my leg. It’s great he massaged the whole of the right side of my body and it felt really good after. I went back to my room and slept for 2.5 hrs. I felt fully refreshed after. 

I spent the day packing stuff so when Debs arrived later she take it back with her. It’s quite sad to be leaving but I can’t wait to be home with Debs. 

I sat in the day home in the evening and wrote cards for Paul, Ana, all the nurses/health assistants and all the physio/OT teams.

Danesbury weeks 5-7

03/08 Another early start to the week. OT at 08:30 am. Ana decided that we were going to get my shoulder blade working today. It seems to sticking out a bit more than it should. Great as it is the new issue in the process of repairing my body. If only I could have said it was relaxing……..no…….. My shoulder did feel better after. Psychology was good and bad. I admitted that I am scared of leaving here. I know I have to go back into the real world but I am protected in here. I still can’t fully let go in there as I fear I wouldn’t stop. So needless to say I wasn’t in the mood for exercise group but done it away as otherwise I would of just sat and moped over it all. Debs came up to see me in the afternoon and we got in contact with my insurance company I had an accident plan with them. And it wasn’t until debs was explaining the situation that I am in to them that it all hit me. I broke down. I I I was constantly crying I couldn’t stop crying I was a mess but it was bound to happen because even through all of this I haven’t been sad I’ve been quite chirpy all the time and today I crashed. Abby came in and suggested that I go out for a walk. Well I sit in my wheelchair debs pushes me get out of the four walls of the hospital. We did and Tracy the ward clerk was walking home at the same time and ended up pushing me down the hill because Debbie was hilariously scarily bad at it. But it was fun the two of us trying to figure out how to remove a rowhow to move around and I will chair in the wide open big wide world and it put me in a better mood. Abi came in my room later and said she had requested that I see Gill the psychologist again.

04/08 I woke up this morning pretty good. What dressed and went to the breakfast. When and saw Ellen to see how she was getting on. She seem to be doing really well. Washed and dressed herself which is pretty good for 81yrs old and suffered a stroke. When up to the gym to see if the shopping was done for cooking tomorrow. I could feel myself getting upset so hurried myself to the lift. Got in the lift and Ana rushed in behind with Josie. When we got downstairs I couldn’t wait to get in my room and cry. I then set up the iPad and the TV so that I could shut out the world and listen to music. Stayed in my room and of the nurses Adrian came and checked on me and they had a little chat. He is an amazing man I’ve ever think he’s gone through in the operations he is had and he still works in this environment and helps people and it’s really chirpy but that always happy. I stayed in my room until 13:30 when it was time for physio. I changed my shorts for physio as the ones I had on weren’t suitable for the exercise. We worked on some new moves. We started by giving my leg with a good stretch before we worked on my knee and my stepping. Which is coming on ok. My knee is a bit off a challenge as it keeps dropping outwards. My hamstrings are no strong enough so they won’t pull my leg back. Spoke to Gill and she said it was a matter of time before I break down because I’m always so chirpy and laughing and mucking about. He asked me to think about some antidepressants to try and lift me up as I dropped into whole. I said I wasn’t keen on the idea but I would consider it.

05/08

06/08 decided to see Gill and decide on some antidepressants because I have been really really low and I need some little booster to help me out.

07/08

08/08 I am having a day away from this place today. I am excited and scared all at the same time. We are going to look at some new flats that have been built and hopefully be able to get one after the landlord decided to sell our flat. Deb got that bit of good news the day the put me in a coma in Addenbrookes. So I took all the floor plans to look at and decide which to put down as our choices. Debbie took all the paperwork to fill in.

09/08 mum dad Emma and Andrew came and went out for lunch. It was nice but there were so many wasps I panicked as I’m not that mobile to get away if they get angry. 

10/08 

11/08 swapped to a walking stick. OT with Dave. Working on my arm so we got Deb to join to see what I do. Filled in lots of forms.

12/08 Physio with Dave. Paul was on a day off. We were working on my hamstring and hip.

13/08 OT first thing with Ana and the student. I wasn’t digging this morning. I felt so tired. It wasn’t the same kind of session. I worked hard and managed to switch off muscles that were not needed and control others a lot better. Physio. Midnight feast with Abi.

14/08 I got to bed at 01:30am. Woke up at stupid o’clock and had to shuffle myself to get back to sleep. I woke up again at 08:00am. Abi came in to say goodbye. I am going to miss her as she has become a good friend to me over the last six weeks. So we had a hug We had a selfie last night. As I have decided to take photos with some of the staff that have helped me on the journey. I think I might have made a friend………I hope so.  

The morning was slow. Got myself sorted, washed, dressed and had breakfast. Took my coffee and went and thought I would catch up with Ellen.  

We had a good chat about when we leave and had a laugh about a couple of the other women who are in here. Brenda who has been shouting out for Nicola (her daughter we believe). Mavis who have just been walking around with her walking frame……up in the air!!! She went for a shower first thing and we watched her walk off holding her frame, not pushing it.  I had my final pysio session with Paul today as he is off on holiday. It was brilliant I’m so glad that I had him. We got on really well. I forgot to have a selfie with him.

15/08

16/08

17/08 Was awake at 06:00am as I am not sleeping very well at the moment. I have my home visit this morning. Janaya came in and sat done with me for a little while after everyone was in bed. So we had a catchup as she isn’t working working again before I leave. Then Sunday called her over to the nurses station and told to her she she shouldn’t be talking to the patients and do some work. When we came back in to tell me I kept her a bit longer by having a selfie with her. Janaya then said to me friends on FB and send the picture. I think I was 01:00am again before I was asleep.

18/08 I was awake at 05:30am. I couldn’t get back to sleep. I am struggling to sleep as I am nervous about going home. I hadn’t thought about it and hadn’t put the two together. I hadn’t thought that my sleep was being effected by my apprehension about going home. It wasn’t until I thought back over everytime I moved hospital and the unknown and the lack of sleep I had that I realised what going in with my mental state. So the was a fun realisation this morning.  

Once I had figured out all of that I thought I would thy and go back to sleep but that was not to be. David was awake!! They had got him up and up him in the day room. That was a brilliant idea!! NOT!!!! Because he has become so demanding he hits the buzzer constantly. So needless to say there was the constant noise of the buzzer going of and then because no one was coming he then decided to shout at the top of his voice. So there was no chance of me going back to sleep. Instead I ended up shouting at David to shut up. Not that it done any good as it didn’t shut him up but it make me feel better even if it was only for a few seconds. 

I cooked again with the help of Ana. Carla joined us and David joined us for dessert.

Ana came and said goodbye today. Will miss her too and hopefully I will have a friend in her too. She is a crazy lady. She has helped my so much.