Being a survivor of a TBI (Traumatic Brain Injury), and speaking to other survivors I have noticed this. After having a TBI people are quick to advise against survivors trying tasks that they used to do with the phrase you won’t be able to do it anymore. I say this how do you know that we won’t be able to do any more? No one knows if we can do it again or not unless we try.
Ok it might be that we won’t be able to do it the way that we used to be able to, okay…..fine…..fair enough but then the help us try a different way to try and do that task. It might be that after trying all different avenues that actually we are that be able to do that task to their standards we used to, the way we used to or how are used to but at least we’ve tried it.
We didn’t ask to have a TBI mother nature, our bodies or decisions we made resulted in us getting a TBI. Don’t isolate us with defeat before we even try the first hurdle. Help us figure out a way we can try. At the same time we cannot get angry with the people that are trying to help us achieve these things. Sometimes we aren’t going to be able to do a task that are used to be able to. Because at the end of the day we have suffered a TBI. No matter how much you want to be the person you were before your TBI, you aren’t going to be that person you’re going to be another version of that person.
I’m very lucky in the fact that my partner Deb has always helped me to try tasks by myself and only stepped in if I have been struggling. She has been such a rock. She is never given up and like I said before leaves me lists of jobs to do so I can’t sit and wallow in self pity as doing that achieves nothing.
Below is the web address of called Henry Fraser who had an accident at 17 years old while on holiday and also the web address of a young girl called Beth who had a stroke at the age of 17. Finally Emma who 11yrs ago at the age of 24 suffered a stroke due complications during surgery in the land of Australia.
These people didn’t allow for their TBI to define them. A TBI will only define you if you let it and I don’t know about you people out there but i’m certainly not going to let it define me.